Something that my Pastor once shared during a service,that often times we put to much value in what people say and expected them to come through in whatever situation it was. He said this, “Don’t expect and you won’t be disappointed.” Perhaps we are hoping for a something to come through in our situation that didn't materialize the way we thought.
What did he mean? Meaning, when we put our trust in things or what people say or do, we will surely be disappointed. Sure, people should have integrity and fulfill commitments and promises, but you know people are not perfect, and they are just not going to "always" do what they say they'll do. Sometimes, conflicts may arise, or things are delayed for a reason, and we just have to learn to trust God in those situations and not allow that disappointment to overtake us and consume our emotions.
For some people it cripples them from belieiving or having faith to move on to the next things or from entering into other relationships, because they feel that they’ve been let down or even burned and they retreat because they don’t want to be hurt or feel rejection. The only person that we should expect from and will never disappoint is God! His promises are yes and amen, and He always come through! It just may not be in our timing.
A simple example of a disappointment would be, if someone tells me that they want to get together, I’ve learned that until they follow up with a phone call or set a date, I’m not going to bank on that. How many times have you ran into friends or you yourself have even seen someone and said, “Hey let’s do lunch, I’ll call you this week.” Well, this week comes by neither you nor the other person has made the contact and eventually someone is disappointed because they really value you or you really value them? Now sure, let's be merciful and allow room for things that are out of people's control that will sometimes keep them from carrying out their commitment. We cannot hold those things against people and be offended.
We are living in a “ME” generation, our time, our agenda, or our schedule is too important, and we don't take time to appreciate and connect with our friends and loved ones. God has called us to live to give, a life of selflessness, to reach out beyond our four walls and be a blessing.
Consider what Philippians 2: 1-4 (MSG) , “If you've gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life…if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don't push your way to the front…Put yourself aside… Don't be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.”
Let it not be said of us that we disappointed, but also let us "not expect and we won’t be disappointed" by anyone or anything!